A Major Announcement from Fathers & Families « Fathers & Families

A Major Announcement from Fathers & Families « Fathers & Families

Canadians ! Warning

Make no mistake about it- the names mentioned in the -text -send all their information- to Canada- to people like -Jeremy Swanson (Ottawa-Men's Center)

If you care about children- and so often hidden abuse that never surfaces in contentious divorces-with horrendous results for our children; then- recognize some names- like -Holstein-read the Sacks "blog
" , learn about a Mr. Farrell- his ideas- THEIR ideas- and feel shock and horror at the discourse of some of these- "fathers' " rights people.
Their information (put out by a few- is spread -to a few- thanks to the information flow of the Internet.Like Richard Dawkin's idea of memes- except, these ideas are cultural viruses-guaranteed to sicken our society- by the planned destruction of our children. Rermember- ONLY approximately a 2% of our children- but , in my opinion- ONE child destroyed is already one too many.

Do these people understand the destruction they cause ? Probably not. Do they care -for example- in a "mild" case- where parents have equal custody-that the children have to pick up and -sort of move- between homes ? Probably not. I have seen years and years of children shunted between homes- whether they want it or not. I met up with a young lady, whom I taught when she was in Secondary One. (11-12 years old) There was a constant sort of -frozen robot like on guard behavior- -what if she forgot her books at one home ? -etc. The logistics of any changed dance classes or other extra curricular activities- was- phenomenal. On the first parent's night- in came her young mother- a trained psychologist- very nervous- she finally said- I have to rush because I must not let her father see me here. Same story over and over- parent after parent. In  came the father- with wife no.2 in tow- supercilious-arrogant- asking if mother had been there- as though it were a crime. The mother only asked about the daughter - -.

I never forgot that one child- remembered more than the others- for an unknown reason. Years later I am at a regional conference for community groups- part of my continued work in the area- particularly with/for victims of sexual aggression. Up to me come two young women- both, I remember- and the one- is that frozen faced child from Secondary One! She is in college -locally-.The presentation she came to see- where I was-and where she came- was on sexual aggression. I carefully mention that I clearly remembered her and wondered where she was and how she was doing. I ask if she has her own apartment. NO- madame- I am with my MOTHER !! With such a joyous expression on her face-and then- she proceeds to tell me about dad- and the step mother - - -Her face is no longer frozen. It is open and joyous.

If a divorce separation agreement goes to court- over and over- is contested- usually by the father- there is ALWAYS more than meets the eye behind it. One cannot impose sanity and empathy and caring for other human beings- where it was not present to begin with.

There is a reason, as old as time, that mothers usually get custody- and it has to do with genetics and evolution and the way mammals reproduce and who carries and bears the young of the species. And- who nurtures the young.

Yanking people continually through courts destroys everything that can be sane , calm and beneficial for developing children. .

Could it be- greed ? (won't pay the b**** -no comprehension of the needs of developing children ? (ranting at a child over a missing book- etc) or- some twisted sense of ownership- (child is not a person- but a possession-mothers are not people either- they are "owned" ) -a mixture of many factors probably.

What ever the "causes" ,there is nothing admirable or helpful, in anti-social behavior.

I keep thinking about that 18 year old in the Toronto area- who put a stop to the utter destructive NONSENSE that was going on. A group of people in Toronto- who align with Farrell, Holstein  and Gardner, - were set to have a younger brother sent to another country for some kind of highly dubious "therapy"

Madness.

Why did a delightful child have to pass at least 7 years of her young developing life- being shunted back and forth between -homes- only to FLEE to her mother the SECOND she turned 18 ? Multiply her story thousands of times across Canada-

In my opinion, people who push these -"ideas" are predators- looking for prey. Further, they seek out and/or attract the -people at the bottom of the humanity continuum.

Pound Pup Legacy | advocates for child safety within the foster care and adoption system

Pound Pup Legacy advocates for child safety within the foster care and adoption system


This just came through on an alert for -texts about child sexual abuse. Very important for Canadians. While this blog appears to address specifically fostering and adoption- the social services systems in general, across Canada, are positively medieval and many of their practices and attitudes are immensely destructive to non-offending parents and the wounded children- as well as affecting foster child and adopted children.
All too often, the lack of knowledge, poor attitudes, prejudices and lack of communication between systems, result in deaths. Think of residential schools. Think of reservations- think of "domestic" violence -(I detest that term- I picture a snarling fanged brute tearing apart a mother- whilst social workers comment from behind the safety of a barrier-) he isn't very socialized is he ? We recommend custody to the brute- after all- he will go to anger management classes, and therapy for the alleged victim- she didn't defend herself very well- and we need to know what she did to set him off.) Think of - churches and their - - - -leaders-
like- Raymond Lahey - -
And, for sure, read Honouring Christian Lee, September 2009-No Private Matter: Protecting Children Living With Domestic Violence ; report from the Representative for Children and Youth-available in pdf at : www.rcybc.ca/content/home.asp
When you get angry and heartsick, choose what YOU will do to help. We ALL pay the abusers via our tax dollars.